Good Morning! Sunshine!
The topic today is making new friendships. The older I get the more I think about friendship and how I do need to make new friends. This will make life much more interesting! Thomas and I had been comfortable with just us! But now he is gone!
Having a good friend makes life so much richer! However, what happens as we age is we lose our friends, those near our own age. This is why it is important to reach out to others our own age and younger. Build new relationships. Become active by doing new things.
We can get stuck in how loss makes us feel. We miss those we love, who become a part of our memories. The way past old memories is by making new memories. It will take effort. A few steps forward, one step at a time will move us onto new paths.
What is it you have not done? Not tried? How can you change things up?
Ater Thomas died: I looked at our home. It was what I could change. I decided I did not want to remember what the couch looked like with Thomas laying on it watching t.v. That memory hurt because I missed him so much! It was our comfortable habit, he lay across the couch and me my chair. Me watching him as we talked. Me thinking about how much I loved him! Changing the living room helped me! I used bright and happy colors. In the kitchen, I changed the appliances to new retro appliances, a soft teal blue. This helped me not envision Thomas cooking omelets or making toast or coffee. I put his photos away. In time I found ones that made me smile and I put these out.
The whole house was full of Thomas! His music, books, and art. As I went through the house preparing to move to a new home closer to my daughter Jacobie and her family I made choices of what I would take with me. I gave things to others. I will take it slow when claiming my new home. I know there are things I will use. There are things I love because they are from Thomas and his folks____.
We don’t have to get rid of the things we love. It is not about erasing the past! It’s how to move forward with some things as a part of the future. This is true of what has been given to us by friends as well. Physical things or our memories of fun times. Thomas was my best friend, a wife or husband is often seen as being a best friend.
Rather than be without a good friend because we have lost that person or those very dear people we do need to make new friends. I think finding friends of any age is a good thing! Keeping a young mind is important too. A focus on what we can do rather than what we can’t. Figuring out how to do whatever it is we can’t. Don’t let self-talk stop you from experiencing new people and new things.
If someone new comes into your life. It is ok to have new relationships. But if you don’t want a new relationship it’s just as ok too! No matter what don’t be afraid of a new path, of new things! New friends!
Best wishes! Pejj Nunes