Good Morning Sunshine! Finding forgiveness.

Forgiveness? Ah! Forgiveness! What does it mean? How can it change a life? Is it lasting? Is it letting people off the hook? Are we not all responsible for our words and actions? Are we not accountable to each other once we make a commitment to a relationship? What happened to my being the individual me, once I moved into a relationship? Shouldn’t I be loved for who I am, and when I am not_____? Are we not obligated when in a relationship? Doesn’t that justify my hurt and anger?

Most, perhaps all arguments seem valid. This is one theory. Theses statements reflect how my mind has worked. These ideas have been a part of my pro and con list for how I feel. I needed a bottom line. I needed to find balance! The probe is that there is no solid bottom line if all one ever does is stack up pros and cons! What we have, before we even begin to stack these pros and cons is a question we already know the answer we want. How to debate and use propaganda depends on creating such lists. The world today thrives on obtaining ite pros and cons without further thoughts on what repercussions the arguments will affect. You can endlessly keep this up. However, it is not living life well to keep on chugging like the energizer bunny!

Couple this with being right or justified by one’s rules of how things should be_____ it’s an endless treadmill. How well I know. I became very tired of how I was living life on my treadmill. I got tired of thinking! Over thinking! Here I am! 68 years old soon and finally feel I can live differently! I can be happy! I can let thoughts that swing by my mind to simply keep on trucking past. I really don’t have to ponder them. I can stop this habit. I can stop it by replacing it with new thoughts or doing new things! I can change my life!

Something more to consider is something called neuroplasticity. According to Psychology Today “Neuroplasticity is the brain’s capacity to continue growing and evolving in response to life experiences. Plasticity is the capacity to be shaped, molded, or altered; neuroplasticity, then, is the ability of the brain to adapt or change over time, by creating new neurons and building new networks.” This to is a part of the mix when we become hurt and angry; when any form of relationship fails us in some way other than we intend.

“Historically, scientists believed that the brain stopped growing after childhood. But current research shows that the brain is able to continue growing and changing throughout the lifespan, refining its architecture or shifting functions to different regions of the brain.” SO! There is time to change up how we think: there is time to find happiness and to forgive!

“The importance of neuroplasticity can’t be overstated: It means that it is possible to change dysfunctional patterns of thinking and behaving and to develop new mindsets, new memories, new skills, and new abilities.” Such things as neuroplasticity is something we should know about. We just don’t roll along, not if we empower ourselves with knowledge. Unless we learn about such things as neuroplasticity we just don’t know. I am interested because I am interested in the mind and creativity. I feel it’s important to blog about it because it should help others. We can rewire the brain. A book title: Neuroplasticity by Neal Cooper. May it help me in my goal of understanding the mind! How and why we do what we do is interesting! How we feel is even more important!

Best wishes! Pejj