Coffee at the right, a cozy sweater because the electricity was out when I climbed out and is now on! Seems over 6,000 people have lost power. Feeling lucky to have ours back! Now to settle into writing! Very wet snow out there!
Today will be a day to work on the draft of the Shibui manual. It feels good to be latched onto the writing mode and not pulled towards creating art. Writing requires focus as does art. When you do both it requires mental adjustments, at least this is what it feels like. The argument with the mind, “No! This is what I am doing now!” I like learning that the mind uses prediction, that we can train it to go into other venues. This gives one a sense of control. LOL.
The cat is satisfied, he has been given both food and water. He rightly so expects this ritual. And since I am not talking to him___he has turned his head away facing me. He will eventually come and insist on a morning patting ritual. “Yes, you are a good kitty and I love you!”
Alex is in the shower now we have power on and will be gaming soon. The day begins. Having Alex here reminds me of what the teenage years were like with the kids and mothering. But there is a twist with Alex as he has ADHA, a touch of OCD, anxiety___some social things. Where he may respond with no emotional clue but rather matter of factly. Things may be black and white with one or two grays only.
I get the cranky, “forget it” because he does not want to explain something, he lacks patience when busy-minded, but this is due to ADHD. I got ADHA down pat, Tom had it. This is why it works for Alex to be here. It is not that he is trying to be rude. Not that he can’t be. You could say he is a minimalist LOL. He will explain his thought later if need be. His explaining himself is important. So I push it by telling him what he needs to know! Put the Grammie had on. LOL. Sometimes it’s, “Go away.” This means he’s in a game. Other times he will come and watch a movie or he is after food, needs something. He is a person who likes being by himself. I always liked being by myself and was alone to work as a writer and artist. The gaming is social so he is in there giggling and talking. With people he is shy. But he also sizes people up, if they are interesting to him he observes. If they talk baloney he has no interest. My observation of who he is. I surprise him with my understanding, and like that. His mother had Tourettes and has anxiety and panic attacks. She overcame these with the help of meds and is an LPN today. Not easy to have disorders. But it helps a lot when someone shows understanding. There is more to who we are. This is what I can impart to Alex, and it has relaxed him as it did his mother and Tom.