Good Morning Sunshine! Changing life up!

Emma’s 7 1/2 now. Hard to believe, and I don’t want to miss out on herI She is my honey! Nor do I want to miss out on Oliver Thomas as he is a very special little boy too! Alex is here! LOL Not missing out on him!
They were 5 and 3 here. (Emma and Oliver Thomas) I was teaching them at this time.
He is 15 now! His voice is much deeper, and he is tall! I think he might have been 14 plus here.
Dave with Alex.
Alex gaming with Grampy when he was little.
Their Mom! Jacobie! My bestie!

Since my husband died in 2020, I have given a lot of thought to how to change my life. First, I needed to figure out what I wanted my new foundation to look like. I felt that starting with my environment was key for what would follow. I needed a new space that did not constantly remind me of my life with Thomas. I reason we are certainly not going to forget the people we love so very much. But when I look around the rooms, if I change my view___ I asked myself, how would that impact me? It did, I created a space I could simply relax in, and it felt cozy. I used calming colors and did things I liked the looks of but had never tried before. My daughter helped antique by painting my coffee table. I wanted a Boho look. Something fun! We painted the benches and set them around the dining room. We painted a bookshelf, a small stand. The colors were yellow, peach an off white and pale blue.

I also want to make changes to my wardrobe. New clothes always feel good. I asked myself, how do I want to express myself at this age?

I have wrestled with being suddenly single. I have been married more than I have been single. What do you do with this when you are in your sixties? And after? No one gets younger? I have no reference for what life is like at this age, and like any other points in life we come to, there are no instructions, therefore I conclude life is what I make it! I do not want to pigeonhole myself into someone else’s idea of what life needs to be now.

I have decided to work on being me. And simply make my dream with Shibui happen. Be a writer and an artist. Get back into the swing of these two things. I took time for myself to grieve Thomas. I wanted to feel the feelings, and think about what it would mean to untangle from who were had been. I had always been who I am, Thomas supported my independent self. But there is the couple we were, and how we loved each other. I explored what I learned about love during our nearly 22 years of marriage. We had something special. I am at a point wondering if I will ever have yet another chance for love again. So the how you feel does, it can evolve. For now, I will simply explore myself, and perhaps one day meet someone who is interesting, charming, loving, kind, etc. Who can love me for who I am, and in turn, I can love him for who he is.

How life works out? Who knows____but living fully is the idea. Being more healthy mentally and physically is key.

I plan to move, and be closer to my daughter so I can be Grammie on a regular basis. Be there to influence my grandchildren in art, writing, and life. I have a lot I can offer them. And I want to build upon what my daughter their mother and I have. My middle daughter and son too! Living life has every busy. If we are closer together then we can make life richer. Moving will change things up.

By Pejj Nunes

I live in Southern Maine. I am the owner of Anisette Studios. My website is https://www.anisettestudios.com/ Here you can view and purchase Shibui, sign up for my newsletters, blog, and read articles about Shibui Found Image Art. Patrons get great deals several times a year and special items at times. My site makes it easy to contact me. My primary art form is Shibui Found Image Art. Shibui begins with action art and stems from the imagination. It is like seeing something in the clouds or solving a puzzle. Its creative process has its own rules and requires what I call reverse engineering due to a lack of an understructure and purely out of the imagination. In addition to those who patron me, my target groups are those who use art therapy. I will soon be teaching live. Contact me if you would like to learn live. I use Zoom. I request that although my art, other images, and what I write is now published by me here on WordPress; I do ask you do not to use my artwork, poetry, or the information about Shibui Found Image Art without my permission. I am quite available to make such requests. I wish to share the following: The existentialist philosopher Simone de Beauvoir wrote a book called The Ethics of Ambiguity. In it, she lays out a guiding ethic in response to the philosophy of existentialism. It might be somewhat familiar to you already. She writes, “To will oneself free is also to will others free. This will is not an abstract formula. It points out to each person concrete action to be achieved.” Best wishes to all! Have good times and keep safe! Pejj

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