Good Morning Sunshine
The importance of staying in one’s schedule is even more important after the death of one’s spouse. Despite knowing this at a gut level, does not mean that you do it, it becomes harder to feel like you want to do anything for chunks of time. You end up simply taking care of your emotional needs. This is ok, this needs to happen. Discombobulating is a word that fits this time.
I suggest a simple schedule at the beginning. It may be the basics are all your up for. Then add to this one or two things at a time. Some days will differ in a while and you will do more. It will mean pushing yourself at times.
If you are a “thinker” the problem can be overthinking. One thing that did help me was reading, and listening to Michael Singer’s book The Untethered Soul. The point he makes is that that voice in one’s head is not you. That it is just a thought, and we do not have to listen to it, but need to dub it “Just a thought” and let it go! Why? Because it is like the word game, where we are to think of one word to start us off, then it continues. “What do you think of when I say___” And it is off to the races. My mind goes there as a writer, and is quite ready to do so! I know this about me, and this is why I looked at books, that would be useful regarding that voice. It did not help that at a gut level I felt I knew this. What I needed was affirming that I was right. Seems that is how I am, and with Thomas gone____my muse is not here. It is talking to the self. There is this urgency that you had best be right when it’s just you! It helps running things by friends sure. Yet, we do not always do this.
As a writer, the mornings are great to start me off, a cup of coffee, meds taken. But there is something else as important! To get up, dress, comb the hair, etc. Dressing for the day will make you feel good. You can always dress for comfort.
Exercise is important. I run into trouble with this, so must work harder to make sure I move by doing things, and getting out to walk. This has me reaching out to have a partner to walk with. It is always nice to have friends.