Sharing part of a letter with you about nature/nurture.

A letter to a pen pal who wants to discuss this topic. “It is a delight to find someone who likes to take on topics of interest. Your just the ticket. Thomas was my outlet for my interests before. A walking encyclopedia! We talked about anything and everything. The loss of Thomas’ great conversations was why I turned to pen palling. I have always hoped to find someone that likes to tackle topics of interest. The topic of the male perspective interests me. Do share those thoughts. Nature/Nurture too!”

When I think of me as a young girl, my beef about being a girl was that I liked the things I saw the boys doing! I did not feel being a girl was so different. Or should be seen as being different. Yet there are differences. However, when it comes to being a human being I don’t think it should be so hard to understand one another if we but only communicated better. Good communication means listening, taking turns to have good conversations and gathering information in about someone or their interestes, concerns, etc. We depend on body language, tone of voice, and the messages we get from one another. We base what we believe to be the truest reality on what we take in from conversation and observation. Mixed messages add confusion. Not listening adds to poor information gathering, and assumptions, guessing. My first husband William was a prime example I feel. He I feel did not communicate well, and there was a lack of time to have good communication or be together as a couple. I felt I was guessing about how he felt all the time because he did not let me into knowing him. That is what it felt like. He was a farmer and worked long hours. Me with my interests the relationship did not work. His frustrations, and personality made him an angry personality. The marriage need to end. He and I had three children. The relationship made me think a lot about what it means to be male and female, as well as what good communication is. I jumped at the change to take interpersonal communication in my degree program. It I learned had the same concepts I had been writing about. Not a new idea and different terms.

Communication has a lot to do with nature, nurture when it comes to being human.

The concepts of nature/nurture signifies the basic responses of human beings; we think, feel and take action regarding those feelings. thinking, feeling, and acting—that humans are said to have naturally. The term is often used to denote the essence of humankind, or what it ‘means’ to be human. This usage has proven to be controversial in that there is dispute as to whether or not such an essence actually exists.

Nature, one train of thought is that we have a sense that we belong to this world and are a part of it and everything. We develop relationships to other humans and animals who are a part of the natural world. Everyone has there own unique experience, depending on who they have a relationship with. There is a need to feel connected. Two results of nature nurture being in a relationship a successful relationships and having failed relationships. Relationships fail because of our words and actions and what we believe as so. We stack up life in terms of pros and cons to get the answers we want, however if this is all we do, we are destine to fail! Because we have the answer we want. Having the answer we want does not mean we have the answer we should have to nurture our relationships. Our self talk is involved and it relies on what we believe to be so. And there we are! All the decisions ever made have a foundation based on who we are as a person, and as a people. Following along and not changing the self, and what is believed as so at that level has us creating all the things out there in the world! Like how we feel about one another.”

It seems obvious that who we are and how we are are being human beings, and without the ability to communicate we there is no nurturing ourselves or others.

Do share your thoughts on the topic please!

Pejj Nunes 9/29/2021

By Pejj Nunes

I live in Southern Maine. I am the owner of Anisette Studios. My website is Here you can view and purchase Shibui, sign up for my newsletters, blog, and read articles about Shibui Found Image Art. Patrons get great deals several times a year and special items at times. My site makes it easy to contact me. My primary art form is Shibui Found Image Art. Shibui begins with action art and stems from the imagination. It is like seeing something in the clouds or solving a puzzle. Its creative process has its own rules and requires what I call reverse engineering due to a lack of an understructure and purely out of the imagination. In addition to those who patron me, my target groups are those who use art therapy. I will soon be teaching live. Contact me if you would like to learn live. I use Zoom. I request that although my art, other images, and what I write is now published by me here on WordPress; I do ask you do not to use my artwork, poetry, or the information about Shibui Found Image Art without my permission. I am quite available to make such requests. I wish to share the following: The existentialist philosopher Simone de Beauvoir wrote a book called The Ethics of Ambiguity. In it, she lays out a guiding ethic in response to the philosophy of existentialism. It might be somewhat familiar to you already. She writes, “To will oneself free is also to will others free. This will is not an abstract formula. It points out to each person concrete action to be achieved.” Best wishes to all! Have good times and keep safe! Pejj

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