“It is never the big things that make me peaceful,” a friend once remarked, “but the little things____” This peace is approached differently by everyone, but most admit it is the quiet, simple way of life that makes the easiest living. When calm and contented we are able to think wonderfully positive things. We allow them to caress our ruffled feelings until we become quite able to meet what must be met. So enjoying the simple moments is not a waste of time. It is a renewing and a recentering that lets us go with the least difficulty.” Joyce Hifler.
Another thought: “It is a rare cloud that has no silver lining. As dark as it gets, sometimes there is a light we can turn on if we earnestly search for it. (This is why I write Good Morning Sunshine, I asked myself how can I make a difference, so there is a candle of hope?) And if we can turn it on even briefly, we find the silver lining to that little puff of gray that seems to follow us around.”
“It was Cowper who wrote, “Beware of desperate steps__the darkest day, live till tomorrow, will have passed away.” Sometimes we just need to mark time until a certain period has worn itself out, but other times we need to aid the passing of that time and give ourselves a chance to be peaceful. In a sense, we take a vacation from ourselves by reaching out to help someone less able to help themselves.” I think Joyce is referring to David Cowper. You can read about him here. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Cowper.
A few words from Edna St Vincent Millay’s Renascence. “The world stands out on either side no wider that the heart is wide. Above the world is stretched the sky, no higher that the soul is high.” ___this is a beautiful expression of the spirit.
As for me, my own thoughts. As people, we need one another. We don’t communicate as well as we should, or could. We fail to teach communication skills well. Because if we did have better communication skills the world would, could be very different. What kind of skills makes good communication? Listening for one component. Listening involves the tone of voice we use. Then there is really looking at one another to see the body language of one another. We depend on these clues so to understand what is said. If someone gives you a mixed message, it requires checking on just how that was meant. Taking the time to check is well worth it! It holds the other person accountable for his or her words, and for his or her related actions. Communication involves other components too. It involves who we are as people, and how we use the language we do. This involves cultures and races of people. If we communicated better we would learn a lot about other people! The meaning of words, how they are expressed is vital to better communication. You can be at any professional level in life and still be a very poor communicator! We should teach interpersonal communication from kindergarten on so a generational improvement can happen. (Pejj Nunes.)
“We have become more aware of our environment in the past few years than before. And because of concern for the well being of nature, much attention has gone to the search for wilderness__that primitive area untouched by anything but the inner workings of nature itself. Yet, there is one frontier we have not touched, for it must be done on an individual basis. And that wilderness is within each of us. It is the primitive area untouched by anything but the inner workings of conscious and unconscious man (or woman). Even though outer space has been called the last frontier, man’s inner space is the most unexplored and most unlimited and fascinating land of the unknown.” Joyce Hifler’s book, Pathways, Rewarding thoughts for better days was published in 1975. I was 20 years old then I am 65 years old now. Her words are amazing, and they ring so true at this time. Our world can be a better place folks if we begin with ourselves! Compassion for ourselves, and for others does not have to be or feel like a dead thing. Empathy and sympathy can grow strong! We can carry ourselves in new ways and make new paths! The world needs a new way to live. We can do this! We can make it better! We can make it good. It will require one very hard thing though___and that will be to let go of hurt and anger, even when they feel most justifiable. We can not go forward in any other way. HOW? My life experience has taught me that I needed to let go of what hurt me, and look at it in different ways, sometimes as if it were not me but someone else looking at what hurt me. When I did this I could look at things from different angles. Because what has been done is done….the answer is to live in the present and let the past be the past. No matter how awful things are, in time one can find a place for those things. Why we recall these things up so easily is because that is how the mind and bodywork. When we are hurt the mind files away both how we think and feel. If you don’t find a place for your experience, and if you don’t make it precious to the point of never letting it have its place___you can not live in the present and find happiness, and hope. One thing always colors another thing. Our mind makes its connections. My one-liner for myself was, “I know what I felt, and I don’t have to live it over, and over every day. There were reasons for my reality, but reality changes with inciting which comes over time. It does not have to come today.” It took a long time for my anger and hurt to be expressed in a few words and not a whole series of books! I wrote poems about my hurt and anger, I talked it to death trying to understand it. So I know what it is, it took years and created a lot of holes in what I really wanted my life to be. I can’t bring what might have been back__but I can do something about now, today. (Pejj Nunes)